If there is
one thing I have come to learn, it is that raising kids is a challenge in
today’s society. One of the reasons it
is a challenge is because I am trying to raise them in a biblical way. That is
not something that is smiled upon any more.
While there are some who do not agree with the manner in which I raise
my children, my wife and I are doing our best to bring them up on the nurture
and admonition of the Lord.
We have one
child who is special needs so that makes things a challenge. He does not respond very well to discipline.
I try hard to not take it personally when he doesn’t respond, but it is
challenging to me being “old school.” When he talks back or is disrespectful I
have to fight an urge inside of me to want to go off. I do rather well by the
grace of God to hold back my “barbaric” urges. I want to live according to
Proverbs 13:24 and love my sons accordingly. Out of all the jobs I have ever
held being a parent has to be the hardest. I feel like a horrible parent most
days when I do not just let my kids do whatever it is their little hearts
desire. I want them to become good godly men one day. We try and implement
rules and regulations for them that each boy has to abide by; we also try and
give them age appropriate chores.
Proverbs
19:18 gives hope to parents who are struggling with their children, it says
“Discipline your son, for there is hope….” There is hope in disciplining your
child(ren). The hope we have is in Christ. There is no other hope in this
world. We have to learn as parents that when our children misbehave it is not
always a reflection of our parenting skills and we need to ask ourselves why
are we concerned about their behavior; is it because we are worried about what
the person next to us is going to think? It is easy to fall in to that trap, we
just have to remind ourselves that we are children of grace and to extend that
same grace to our children. When is it
kids just being kids, or something more severe? I am no expert on this topic so
please don’t take my words to be the final authority. We go to the final
authority which is the Bible.